This week, I believe it was wednesday… I had a total loose it moment.
After 2 days being away from home… Monday at an all day session (pretty much) – and then Tuesday traveling to a city an hour 1/2 away to pick up our new kitchen table… resulted in my home getting trashed… It was so out of order and I was so behind on so many things… that the pressures of what all I had to do just got to me.
Im sure im not alone in those days…
The demands we have as mothers can be so much.
Between schooling the kids…
Preparing meals for the family…
Running errands…
Doing laundry, oh my goodness, laundry – I really cant seem to love it, but I don’t hate it ;-)
Spending time with our husbands…. I cant be alone in my struggle to really devote lots of time to this, after all – once the kids are in bed, I am done – all I want to do is relax, veg out and sleep! Or most nights I send my time catching up on work I have left to do. I know though they deserve our devotion too.
I don’t think there is a single passing moment when I don’t have something pressing on me to do… yet I often times put it off, in order to get some me time.
None the less… I read a devotional today on one of my fav websites… and I loved it so much I thought id post it here…
The original post comes from Proverbs 31 Ministries. LOVE LOVE LOVE their site, book mark it and visit it daily, kay? :)
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“Jesus said, ‘Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.’” Matthew 19:14 (NIV)
I admit it. I’m the world’s worst when it comes to preserving photos. I have boxes of photos stacked in various cubbyholes. I tried to organize the pictures once. I divided them and placed them in large envelopes. My next step was to put them in albums. They are still in the envelopes — stacked in a box.
My children Melissa, Ryan, and Leslie are now in their 20?s and newly married. The chances of me ever getting these precious memories organized are slim to none, but I’m realizing something powerful. Memories aren’t limited to pictures.
Remember when, Mom? is a common phrase in my house now. We have become the hub, a privilege once reserved for my husband’s parents. At holidays and special weekends, they drive up and unload luggage and pile into the guest rooms. We laugh and reminisce a lot around the table. Remember when we went on treasure hunts in the pasture? Remember when you jumped on the bed and popped Ryan up in the air so high it scared you? Remember that yellow Slip-n-Slide™?
I do remember. But I also remember a young mom with three little ones who worried that her house wasn’t spotless when an unexpected guest showed up. I remember the angst of trying to do everything and the fatigue when my day ended before my chores did.
I also remember days that I threw caution to the wind and jumped on the bed, even though it might make others frown. I grabbed a shovel and gave the kids plastic buckets and we looked for old bottles and trinkets at the abandoned homestead nearby. We mixed dishwashing liquid and water and I laughed out loud as the kids flew like greased lightening across the yellow slippery slide.
Some of those memories were captured in that pre-digital age, but most were not. However, they are etched on the heart of my young adult children.
What they don’t reminisce about is the sweet, sweet smell of PineSol™. Whether my house was perfect or how it compared to others’ is not even on their radar.
Why did I worry so?
Is it good to have order and structure? Sure. But don’t allow the pressure to be the perfect mom keep you from the simplicity of playing with your children. The unmade bed will still be there when you are through, but I promise that a child will grow quickly.
Take a moment today and look past the clutter and the to-do list and be a child again. It might not be a picture-perfect moment, but it will be a memory.
Dear Lord, time passes so fast. Slow me down. Let me enjoy the smallest pleasures. Let me play with my child instead of only knocking down a to-do list. Let me laugh with my teen instead of fussing at him. Thank You for sweet memories, Amen.
Author: T. Suzanne Eller
and… since I know I love to see other moms homes with some mess ;-) – seriously does my heart good. I loved that a few weeks ago I went to my friend Shannon’s house and there were clothes in a pile, suitcases along the wall and toys on the floor. It did me good! I always thought her house was perfect :)
So heres my mess for the day… and just think… this is missing 2 loads of laundry, one in the dryer, one in the wash as well as the cloth diapers. NOW THAT IS A LOT…. My kids ran out of underwear too :) – this will be what I tackle tonight.