I saw this comment on facebook today by a comedian and had to share. My friend (& blogger) Brandy who has 9 boys shared the remark… Yes 9 boys :)
Comedian Jim Gaffigan has 5 children; here’s how he answers the “Why so many?!” question:
“Well, why not? I guess the reasons against having more children always seem uninspiring and superficial. What exactly am I missing out on? Money? A few more hours of sleep? A more peaceful meal? More hair? These are nothing compared to what I get from these five monsters who rule my life. I believe each of my five children has made me a better man. So I figure I only need another thirty-four kids to be a pretty decent guy.”
If you haven’t watched Jim’s comedy acts on Netflix you should. Im not really into comedians but his acts are funny :) – fairly family friendly… but some of them can have a word or two. Just as a warning for small listening ears.
The other day I went on a walk with my boys. Travis was at work and Reed was protesting his nap. Probably had something to do with the fact he slept in til 10am… but non the less we went on a walk in the 72F beautiful Georgia weather… As I walked down our neighborhood roads… and my older 3 boys zipped pass me on their bikes. A man in his car stopped by me as he drove passed my boys cautiously (thank you btw for the drives who do slow down)… and he said “FOUR?!” I smile as I pushed my 2 year old in the jogger… “Yup… 4 boys.” He then asked “Are these yours!?” – as if I was their nanny? yes… all four are mine. He then said “Are you done yet?” in a joking tone but none the less it is a bit offensive time after time. I don’t know this man personally and he very well could be a fan of large families and meant nothing by his remarks… his thoughts on our amount of children though reflect something I see often….
Why is it that our society looks at larger families with eyes of misunderstanding and doubt. They wonder if its worth it. If we made a mistake. Why anyone in their right mind would have more than the perfect number of 2… and how anyone could possibly want to chase children all day.
In these moments I laugh it off and try to stay as kind as I can… but there are moments when this happens that I want to be honest with the individual and share with them my real thoughts on large families.
Like Jim Gaffigan mentioned in his remark.
We may not get as much sleep.
We may not have as much money.
It may not be the most peaceful meal some evenings.
… and yes you may find less hair or more grays on your head…
but wow… look at the blessing surrounding you!!
There is not a day that passes where I regret having four children… and honestly the older I get the more I wouldn’t mind a few more.
Life can be hard in the midst of babies and toddlers… the poo accidents and the meltdowns… during weeks where sickness plagues not one but all four of your children… and in the moments when you want just a moment of peace and no responsibility… No mother of many will ever say it was easy… but we proudly admit they blessed beyond words.
So cheers to large families… Next time you see a mom with many little ones. Congratulate her on her beautiful family and tell her she is blessed.
“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
the fruit of the womb a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth.
Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!”
– Psalm 127:3-5